Here I am again

Hi all . I am sorry I feel I’m posting on here lots . It just helps get things out of my head and down I think . Start to make sense of things .

This evening I picked my girls up after work . We came home and they went on trampoline and argued ! So instead of thinking is it bed time so I can have wine , i de escalated and went on the trampoline with my youngest . Then bathed her and then went and had a chat with eldest . Felt less agitated as wasn’t worried about when I could get wine ! There was no rush .

I love reading novels and thought I would be instantly reading but I keep picking books up and putting back down . Day three and can’t concentrate on books so spending time watching rubbish tv . Tonight watching Ab Fab to make me laugh !!!

The other thing I’ve realised not feeling rough at work , I am totally bored to death at work , unchallenged, uninspired, unstimulated , bored bored bored .

What realisations will tomorrow bring xxxx

Keeping going

Ok

So I started off feeling dreadful . I had to massively keep focusing on my breathing on Monday as felt permanently on the verge of a panick attack .

Day three now and I slept better last night . Feel very tired but definately less anxious .

I am constantly thinking about wine and wishing I could have it but I think that may well be normal at this stage .

I am drinking lots of water and eating healthy . I want to nourish my body .

I still feel down but not on the verge of tears the whole time . I’m at the start of a change in my life xxxx

Day 1 check in

I just want to get down somewhere how dreadful things are at the minute and how awful I feel . We think most of it is due to alcohol .

I want to remember how tearful and sad and down I feel

. I want the remember these feelings as I start to get better . I don’t want to be here again .

Short post . I’m at work struggling though . I have so much anxiety and so many knots in my tummy I feel so sick .

Day 1 xxxx

Day 9 – struggle

Today has been a struggle . Work was a tough day but on reflection I think it caused me more stress than the situation warranted . So I think one of three things is happening :

1/ alcohol is still coming out of my system . My body is working hard to recover and I’m in withdrawal which is impacting on my emotional well being .

2/ emotions and feelings are heightened as they are not dulled my wine or hangover . So feeling feels strange and uncomfortable but I just need to get used to them . When they feel normal they will be much easier to bear

3/ the wine witch is nagging away in the back of my mind encouraging me to react to minor situations by feeling very stressed and then I have an excuse to drink .

I haven’t drunk . I had a bubble bath , spent some time with my girls . I’m sat having a seedlip and diet tonic watching rubbish soaps . But that’s what I feel like doing , nothing . So I have my book next to me for if I feel like reading and easy watch tv .

I want to get these feelings down as when things get easier I have these posts to look back on . When the wine witch is saying you have done three months and a drink won’t harm , I could look back at what I’ve been through and think , do I really do any to have to do day 1 , 2, 6,7,9 again etc . I felt crap !!!

So today I have felt stressed and tearful but I’ve held it together , engaged in self care and let these bloody awful uncomfortable feelings just be there .

Day 9. Day 9 though and for that I’m proud xxxx

Tearing my hair out

Day 8 . I have been to a 1940s weekend today with my family . It was lovely but stressful . My gorgeous 13 year old wanting to do totally different things to my six year old . Me playing peace keeper . My hubby had a couple of pints . People were drinking in the sun . I felt stressed because I wanted everyone to have a nice time . I was able to step back though and observe my feelings and recognise why I felt like a drink . Although I felt like tearing my hair out I was able to stay with these feelings . This is a first and I feel anxious still ,I feel a bit pent up but have had a bubble bath , read a bit and now chilling . Looking after myself while I feel a bit het up xxxx

Day 4 and feeling it

Today was woke up before my alarm . I had slept amazingly . I must remember how well I sleep when not been drinking alcohol.

I was making a home made tea for the kids at 6am that I could leave ready for their nan. No chicken nuggets and chips for my children , well not at least while I’m on a roll . You see my body is my temple and I want to feed my precious little people and myself and hubby good wholesome food . Put goodness in .

I am by the nature of my personality all or nothing x not just with alcohol but with food too .

Sometimes my children have chicken nuggets and chips followed by a pizza the night after , it depends on where I’m at .

I want perfection . I crave to be the perfect mother . I am either failing miserably ( in my own mind ) or being a huge success . Actually rarely the latter in my own mind .

I am either trying to protect our health by us being super healthy or I’m on self destruct , first glass of wine at 5 pm, chocolate before tea , and taking my unsuspecting tribe with me .

You see I try so hard to hide all this . So bloody hard and it’s exhausting.

I said to my eldest daughter the other day ( she is 13 ) , I am so lucky to have you two girls . Not every mum gets such lovely children . Her reply ,

“Not every child has such s lovely kind and caring mum . We are so lucky too . ” it brought a tear to my eye . So as I strive for perfection and nearly drive myself into the ground with the pressure of that , do my children need perfection?

I’m babbling. I didn’t plan this post just felt a need to write xxxx

Day 4 ❤️

Step 1 aa and the alcohol experiment

I signed up for the alcohol experiment on sat . By Annie grace and my start day was yesterday . So today I am on day two .

I have also continued reading my quit lit . I am reading a book about the steps of aa . The first step being ” we admitted we were powerless over alcohol – our lives had become unmanageable ” .

It went on to say that the obsession of the problem drinker is being able to drink like a normal person . And that they will set rules, ie no drinking before six , not through the week etc that they all break . It says that many people are stuck at this stage for years .

This seems so true for me . I have spent so much time And energy figuring out how I could drink normally as I couldn’t bear the thought of never drinking again .

But something has shifted . I am starting to accept and need to keep working on my acceptance that I just can’t drink because I do not drink like a normal person . I have had years of trying and it just doesn’t work . Once I start I can’t stop . I have no off button and despite years of trying to develop one it has not happened . Whether I change my drink , alternate with water , all my intentions go out of the window . It does not work . And all the rules I set I break . Only drink when I’m out , lasted two days , only drink gin and no wine , lasted a week . Don’t drink before six pm , oh well it’s half five so close enough . I Cannot moderate . I can’t . So I’m working on step one . I get it . I think it’s finally dawning on me …..

Day 3 with a little help

Well day three here again . Feeling more positive and sleeping better x

Have decided though I cannot do this on my own. So I have done a couple of things . The first I have looked into getting a recovery coach and have an assessment planned in with her next week .

Secondly I have looked for aa groups around my area and have written them all down . I have the information there at the drop of a hat should I need it .

Thirdly I have been looking into medication and I’m not sure if that is something to consider or if I want to broach with gp, but will mull it over .

This is a very short post . I don’t have much to say today . I feel that things are starting to shift . Maybe this is the calm before the storm ☔️ xxx

Day 1

here again ,

Standing small ,

So fed up ,

So scared to fall ,

This same old journey

Begins again ,

Different outcome ?

Different gain ?

I hope and prey ,

And won’t give up ,

I really have had enough ,

Life through the eyes of a big wine glass ,

Really becomes a lot of a hash .

So Day one I’m here again .

Fragile and scared ,

But I need to be brave

I know that life can be so great

I have so much good and so much love

But first I need to rid the witch

The ugly horrible mean old witch

With wine in her hand and a smile on her face ,

She will be there wherever I turn .

But it’s time to beat her , to squash her power , to keep her quiet hour after hour .

Goodbye now my faithful friend , I don’t need you anymore , you have reached your end xxxx